Again much depends on your particular child and the individual he or she is dating." What are the fallacies of this advice?The Bible gives sexual privileges only to married couples. How will your child know what will cause sexual arousal in each person he or she dates?But exactly what does God's Word say about sexual behavior between unmarried persons? Jesus says in Matthew 5 that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
There is no Biblical model for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
" Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." So, biblically, if we are single, we treat each other as brothers and sisters; or, if we are married, as husband or wife.
Sexual arousal is meant to lead to sexual intercourse, and once that fire starts to burn, it can quickly turn into a wildfire that is extremely difficult to control.
Some couples can hold hands and kiss a little without losing control, but others will need pretty much to abstain from even light kissing.
After they find out what stage is too far, having crossed that line in their relationship, they may not be able to go backwards.
By putting ourselves in this position, are we obeying the clear Biblical commands to "flee temptation" and "flee youthful lust?
" In fact, this same author admits in the same chapter, "Although I can't say there should never be any physical contact, it is safest and appropriate for your teen to have as a principle of dating that he or she avoid it." Can we expect this much control out of our teens?
Would we be able to exercise this much control ourselves, especially if we feel we are " in love" with the person we are dating?
What parents once encouraged in the 1950's is today out of control, as premarital sex is not only acceptable but expected .[Dating Problems, Courtship Solutions by Josh Harris] Dating Dangers: I.
Loss of purity The following is a quote from a book called From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth Century America by Beth L.
Then when that danger point approaches, put on the brakes and say stop! Then calmly explain to them your convictions and ask them not to go any further." Let's try to evaluate the wisdom of that advice.