"But it's what we do with our marriages all the time.
To me it's a very simple mathematics equation: the more energy that goes (outside the marriage), the less energy goes into your marriage."Remain optimistic. If both parties are willing to work on their issues, anything is fixable.
"People hold on to the bitterness because they become addicted to the bitterness to avoid the pain they feel," Martino said.
where two people are getting their needs met outside of their marriage or relationship."Such an affair may involve virtual sex, yes — but not necessarily.
An emotional betrayal can be even more damaging to a marriage than a physical one, said marriage counselor M.
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(Heidi Stevens)Recognizing red flags Here are some signs your spouse could be cyber cheating, from Neuman: First you know, then the sharing stops.
I was co-hosting a company-sponsored discussion last fall, open to the public, about coping with divorce. The whole affair was online."The man added that his marriage had ended partly because of it — but still, he needed clarification about whether that Internet relationship constituted infidelity. Several people in the audience nodded "yes," followed by a response from our expert on hand, therapist and author Ross Rosenberg, who specializes in treating sex addiction."Cheating is when you are verbally, emotionally or physically intimate with somebody other than your spouse or partner," said Rosenberg, author of "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us" (PESI Publishing and Media).
A member of the audience shared with the group that he had discovered his wife was involved in a cyber affair."Is that considered cheating? "This can become an affair when there is a relationship ..."What's needed is a neutral party to explain that this type of relationship is hurtful and harmful."For the cheater: Understand the trauma."Finding out your spouse has cheated is traumatic, and trauma kind of lingers," Rosenberg said."People underestimate that trauma because no one talks about it. You have to understand what the person went through and give them the opportunity to let it go.So that needs to be addressed, preferably with a therapist." For the victim: Don't hang on to the blame game.A dear friend and I were talking recently about getting punched in the gut by online comments.