The father would then asses the suitor’s financial position and the ability to provide for his daughter and the children that would be born so soon after the wedding.
I was truly shocked and over the next five years would hear of many other regional traditions.
She never had to buy that little black dress and high heels to impress.
Every day, I am in Turkey, I learn more and more about my adopted country and it never fails to surprise but as Turkey moves further towards western values and trends, I wonder what will happen to the traditional Turkish dating rituals of the past.
Growing up in the UK, the dating scene was not an ordeal.
We no longer needed the approval of our dads and the days of being chaperoned while on a date were firmly rooted in the history books.
This is where you have to be careful as many people assume arranged and forced marriage to be the same thing. My husband’s sister was identified as a potential bride for one young man living in the same town.
After family discussions about his ability to provide as a father and husband, my husband’s sister said yes to the marriage. She never had to complete the walk of shame in the early hours of the morning.
The ladette era of the 90’s prompted females to demand independence and if they wanted to have a one night stand and walk away in the morning, they were going to do it, whether their public reputation was tarnished or not.
Therefore, when I moved to Turkey, I was in for a shock, especially when it came to the dating scene.
The first signs of a difference in courting rituals between my home country of the UK and Turkey were evident on my first holiday.