Sure, he wouldn’t be spending any time if he wasn’t attracted to you, but if he’s solely texting, he doesn’t think of you as a potential partner. You know what you need to know: he isn’t a good, grownup man worth your time. A text ‘relationship’ is simply like being a player in a game.Expecting him to move on to something more serious isn’t realistic. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. It’s a type of false connection that sets up incredibly unrealistic assumptions and expectations.
You probably know the guy who texts once in a while as a kind of check in.
He tells you how much he likes you and even acts super interested in your life. He says how busy he is and how he’d really love to see you soon. If you haven’t met him yet and he’s texting to see if you can get together on short notice, don’t be flattered.
He sent her pictures of the baseball game he attended. She told him about her car trouble and he responded ‘why didn’t you ask me to come help? And, most importantly, how you can take control of the situation – like a grownup! If you are like Sue, Lila or Melissa, here is what you need to know: Continuous texting, when void of in-person meeting, creates a false sense of connection.
Do not assume that getting a bunch of texts from a guy means you are having a relationship. If a man is choosing to only text or primarily text, he’s not showing signs of wanting to get to know you in a meaningful way. Whether it’s because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared — that’s 100% immaterial. You feel like you are getting to know one another, but that is not what’s happening.
The primary change in courtship rituals during this time was a shift from marriage to social status as the desired result.
Before the 1920s, the primary reason for courting someone was to begin the path to marriage.
Date rape, violence, and sexual harassment are also very common occurrences on college and university campuses.
Between 15 and 25 percent of women experience date rape during their enrollment, and victims of abuse come from every race and gender.
Take it for what it is – he’s probably not serious about dating and he’s going down his list, hoping you bite. A man who wants a healthy, mature connection will make every effort to show you he’s interested and to actually see you in person. So if he’s looking for something more than one fun night, a good man will do what he can to impress you by asking you out, and then be in your presence.
Texting is also good for a quick “had a nice time” or “sleep well” note following a nice date. I can see why even good, solid, single men love texting.
If you want a little more, like a phone call first, it’s up to you to get off the texting treadmill and ask for what you want.