Looking for love can backfire When I met my partner, I was in the opposite mindset from when I was online dating.I was just looking for fun and maybe a hookup, not a relationship.It's like gambling: The hope of winning is so strong and motivating, you don't even realize you're losing most of the time.4.
And that's probably why I met the right person shortly thereafter.
Instead of wondering whether he'd like me, I was wondering, "Do I like him?
As with Twitter, Facebook, Linked In, and email, I checked it compulsively with the hope that some exciting notification would greet me on the homepage. I also realized that when I used Tinder, I was swiping compulsively to try to find out who my "super likes" were, often not even reading profiles.
I wasn't even messaging the people I matched with—I just wanted the ego boost of getting a match.
Back when FOMO was keeping me glued to my apps, I wish someone had reassured me other prospects would come my way if I looked up for a second.2.
Online dating is addictive Right after I decided to stop going on OKCupid, I actually had to stop my hands from typing the "o" into my browser when I wanted a work break (OK I slipped up a few times, I'll admit it).It's actually ended up lasting a year because after seven months, I met someone—and it was IRL.The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.I first created an OKCupid account in 2011, and for nearly five years, online dating and I had a tumultuous, on-and-off relationship.Then, in December of 2015, I decided I would take a break from online dating—and that unlike my previous "breaks," this one would last for more than a few weeks.Being single for a while is really not a problem When I was online dating, I was getting worried that I'd been single for —as if that was a lot.