So in this first section, I wanted to walk through getting on how committed he really is in the first place.As I’ve said many times before, it is in your best interest to remain single until a man steps up to enthusiastically, clearly and sincerely propose a committed relationship with you.Again, I don’t think it makes you bad, but I have to look out for myself. So if you do want an exclusive relationship with me, let’s go all the way. And if you do want it, let’s clear the slate and commit to that.” Now…
People are so quick to snap up something half-hearted and then try to make that half-hearted relationship into something more.
I’m not saying that never ever works out, but you are much more likely to succeed in your love life when you take the easy path which is: Say NO to what is what you don’t want and learn what makes what you want most likely to come to you.
Only you can decide if what you learn convinces you to keep participating in the relationship or not.
I said earlier that it’s worth looking into your own sense of trust in relationships since our internal relationship with trust can have a large impact in our relationships… You will never, ever know what the other person is doing at all times.
As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.
Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.
I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).
This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.
I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…
I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.
I can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill I needed to learn.