When I was a kid, my mother and I joined a very large "non-denominational" Christian Church, one of the earliest versions of the Mega Churches that exist today. I was in the children's choir, the community was lovely, and we sang from a song book with drawings of long-haired hippies.
Everything was great until politics began to creep in and the church began hosting speakers like Jerry Falwell, the ultraconservative pastor and political pundit.
When we got sober, my husband tried to find a spirituality that he could accept, but today he's quite happily a staunch agnostic or, as he calls himself, "aspiritual." Throughout our twenty-two year relationship, he's viewed most of my spiritual explorations kindly, supporting me as much as he could. He could care less about church and I could care less about trains, but we're partners so we indulge each other without complaint.
Then some bad things happened in my life -- infertility and third trimester pregnancy loss -- and God and I broke up for a while. My job is not to convert him to a believer and his job is to leave my beliefs alone and not mock me for having them (the not mocking part is important). We are both "good, giving, and game." Yes, that term was created by Dan Savage and is meant to tackle sexual turn-ons in relationships (if your partner is into something you're not, you should still try to be good, giving, and game even if you don't want to do that particular act every time), but it also works well with most relationship challenges.
But in my grief I found myself drifting into another liberal Methodist Church, and I found solace there for many years. He grew up without much religious exposure, although his father was a "spiritual seeker," dabbling in everything before returning to the Catholic Church. My husband and his aspirituality cheerfully join me each Christmas Eve at a candlelight service and I drive the car when he wants to photograph freight trains.
What do the children of God have in common with the children of the Devil?
If Jesus is not your Savior, then God is not your Father. We have few things in common with unbelievers, but the greatest bond that’s missing is the Holy Spirit and that of being a child of God.
I love the classic hymns but they'd rather hear the song from The Grinch.
After 22 years together, we know the best way to make our relationship work -- whether we're talking about religion, television shows, or even what we like to eat -- is to understand that we do not have to agree.
Here’s one of the greatest issues about being unequally yoked in marriage; Christians know that marriage is intended to be for life and even though Christians do divorce, it should only be for ongoing, unrepentant adultery by the other partner, therefore a Christian may end up being trapped in a strife-filled marriage with no way out, having no biblical grounds for divorce.
God doesn’t tell us to not be unequally yoked because He doesn’t want us to have a great marriage; He doesn’t want us to be married to an unbeliever because both could end up being miserable.
That’s not even biblical because salvation is fully a work of God (John ; Eph 2:8-9), so it’s false to believe you can change a person by marrying them and turn them into a Christian. What about the children of a couple who are Christian and an atheist?
Will the children be allowed to go to church by the unbelieving parent?
We are called out of the darkness into the light, only to go back into the darkness and show others the Light (John ).