However, most people she meets are inquisitive rather than offensive about her values.
So, can vegans ever be compatible with meat eaters? “Dating a meat eater isn’t for every vegan, but some vegans will be perfectly comfortable with an omnivore partner,” Gottfried says.
This self-doubt is the biggest obstacle vegan women face when dating, Gottfried thinks.
“I wanted to show vegan and aspiring vegan women that there’s nothing to be afraid of but fear itself when it comes to dating.
When we are confident and happy in our own lives, others are drawn to us.
Think of how much happier you will be if your celebration of love didn’t cause cruelty to living beings.” While vegans have often been accused of being worthy or ‘preachy’, Gottfried is adamant that is not what she is trying to do with her book.
“The idea of writing Vegan Love was not to be a guru, but to share the experiences of many people, so that readers can learn from a collective wisdom.
Sometimes if a non-vegan parent is paying for a wedding, they will insist that animal products be served.
If this is the case, it’s OK to let go of the extravagant wedding that a parent is paying for in favour of a more modest affair that follows your values.
If you can’t convince the person paying for your wedding that it should be all vegan, then simply pay for it yourself.
Is all of that extravagance really worth an animal’s suffering?
“I was never insulted, or rejected in any way because of my lifestyle.
I found that the fear that being vegan would deem me high maintenance was just a fear, and when I was confident about my lifestyle, others embraced it, too.” Including her own experiences as well as that of 30 other vegan women and their partners, the book contains advice ranging from where to meet people (vegan charity events, vegetable festivals and searching for vegans on dating apps are a good idea) date and where to shop for vegan-free clothing and make-up.
For example, there will be no romantic chocolates on the leather sofa or surprise steak dinners involved.