Some critics say that your advice is old-fashioned and disempowering to women. Sherrie: Our clients and readers are doctors, lawyers, CEOs and MBAs, but they are losing their “specialness” by being too transparent online.They are giving away some of their power and mystery by being available 24/7 in every facet of technology.
Ellen: Dating today is totally different than it was when we wrote mysterious much more difficult.
Women in 2013 are virtually transparent and accessible to men 24/7. When a woman texts a man she’s dating non-stop all day long or writes some variation of “happy Monday morning, handsome!
: a best-selling dating book by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider that urged women to never call a man, talk too much, or accept a last-minute date.
Women everywhere claimed that following the book’s advice kept men in hot pursuit.
Here, the authors reveal what to do when you get a text, the biggest dating mistake women (and men) can make, and the rule they’ve had the hardest time following in their own love lives.
How has the dating world changed since your original best seller came out in 1995, and how do these changes complicate a woman’s desire to find a great man and settle down today?
Sherrie: Let men initially travel to you; don’t split the check; and finally, don’t talk too much in the first few weeks of dating. It’s because men and women are biologically different from each other.
Men love a challenge, and they like women who are busy having a life of their own and who don’t make everything about them in the early stages of dating.
A man might joke with a Rules Girl online by saying, “Hi there, lady of very few words.” He’ll end up wanting to know more about her instead of being bored to tears and dreading her emails, texts and calls.
If you don’t want to overwhelm, suffocate or turn off the men you’re interested in, keep your online profiles, emails, texts and other forms of contact light and breezy.
But it wouldn’t hurt to open a car door for a lady…