"There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.
"And mostly they're pretty unfounded." Rosenfeld, who has been keeping tabs on the dating lives of more than 3,000 people, has gleaned many insights about the growing role of apps like Tinder.
They are important today — roughly one of every four straight couples now meet on the Internet.
(For gay couples, it's more like two out of every three).
And that’s not the life that young people lead anymore.
The age of first marriage is now in the late twenties, and more people in their 30s and even 40s are deciding not to settle down.
—Have you stopped dating online because it didn’t work?
Maybe you’re currently dating online, but you’re sick and tired of illiterate profiles and messages.You have one of the most unique data sets about modern romance. Well, one of the first things you have to know to understand how dating — or really courtship rituals, since not everyone calls it dating — has changed over time is that the age of marriage in the United States has increased dramatically over time.People used to marry in their early 20s, which meant that most dating that was done, or most courting that was done, was done with the intention of settling down right away.It also helps the people who use the apps by allowing them to enjoy a pattern of regular hookups that don’t have to lead to relationships.I think these things are definitely characteristic of modern romance.The rise of phone apps and online dating websites gives people access to more potential partners than they could meet at work or in the neighborhood.