Don’t get me wrong, having options is a good thing.Back when I was still single, I often used to daydream how scary being single must have been prior to online dating, never knowing when the next opportunity to meet someone would arrive.
Online dating just makes it all to easy to be reckless in ways that I never would be with a woman I met through friends, work, or family.
I unintentionally hurt women that I don't want to hurt. I want to be a good person, but my actions sometimes say otherwise.
No woman ever measures up to my impossible standards. Once upon a time, I didn't have unlimited options, nor was I good with women prior to online dating. Is "love" that I often see fade in couples after two years worth giving up endless excitement for?
I get to meet new and interesting people nearly every day of my life as my married friends sit on the couch in boredom. I can't control if they choose to think they will win me over.
Years ago I would have killed to have even one option, let alone unlimited options. The time when I appreciated women for both their perfections and imperfections is long gone. Perhaps in a more rational world, all of society would have the fun I'm having, and married, monogamous people, would be considered the freaks.
Online dating gave me a medium to practice and harness my skills with women behind a computer screen that I never would have had elsewhere. How could I crave a girlfriend, when every time I go on a date, I know I have a minimum of twenty five messages waiting for me on my phone? In a world of unlimited options, there is no longer room for imperfection. While marriage is great for some people, I'm not sure marriage and kids can ever keep me from feeling as if I am coasting through a life of monotony, living exactly how society dictates I should be living.
As a man who is now in a fulfilling monogamous relationship, I can’t lie and say I didn’t love this period of my life.
Nor do I see anything wrong with dating as many women as a man sees fit.
Months or even years could theoretically pass by without ever meeting someone new.