Are they lonely creatures in search of emotional dependence from a captive audience?
I could tell that having a sympathetic woman to write to made him feel good, and no doubt gave him some fantasy material. "Thinking about it now, several years later, the letters allowed me to be intimate at a distance.
To be my ‘best self’ without the physical and personal flaws that he'd encounter face to face.” For those who instigate and sustain a relationship with a man imprisoned for a lengthy period of time, physical contact is obviously limited.
Their motivation is born from compassion, low self-esteem or ill-advised intentions.
However there are others who are attracted to men who commit extreme acts of violence, such as rape or murder.
Not so for the increasing number of ladies who write to strangers in prison.
Prior to the internet, prison pen pals relied on snail mail.
In short, the fantasy of these type situations rarely match the reality.
Similarly there are women who are fascinated with writing to an ‘A’ list prisoner, those who make misguided attempt to understand the man behind the monster.
In the UK prisoners can also be placed on a home detention curfew, be expected to permanently reside at a pre-approved address and need to obtain prior permission for a stay of one or more nights at a different address.