On the left, you should see a section labeled Visibility Options. You can still contact people when your profile is hidden but they won’t be able to look at your profile so that sort of defeats the purpose (so remember to make yourself visible if you start contacting people).
If you have other photos that can be made your primary photo just click the button and the process to change it should begin. If none of your other photos are marked as “make primary” your current photos are not seen as good candidates for your primary photo.
This would normally be because they want your primary photo to be a clear headshot of only you.
“On my first date with my now husband, we went to a local pizza place and sat on the same side of a booth because it was really busy and loud.
We had a great time, but when we were waiting for our check, he let out a huge fart that I couldn’t hear or smell—thank goodness—but I definitely felt the massive vibration.
There are more reasons than you might think for this sort of thing to happen so it’s best to not take this personally. To be honest, the service doesn’t have very many free time promotions that I’m aware of, although they do offer several discount promotions such as getting 20% off when subscribing.
For all you know the people you are contacting aren’t even paying members. I’ve not seen any numbers on the exact count of members but I do know that as of June 2009, was getting close to 3.5 million visitors a month.
I guess I drunkenly gave my number to a random guy at a party who happened to have the same name as this cute guy in my architecture class.
It was super embarrassing but I made myself stick it out with a smile until the date ended.” –Cassie, 29, Boston “I was on a date with a handsome guy and it was going well until he started getting very handsy and I think maybe even tried to slip something in my drink—though this detail is a bit unclear in my memory—but needless to say, his behavior made me uncomfortable.
Be sure to read all the rules as there are additional qualifications. If you are a paying subscriber to Match.com, you can contact anyone you want regardless of whether they pay or not.