I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?
The site respects the fact that most 12-step programs advise their members to refrain from dating in their first year of recovery so that they can focus on themselves.
The site encourages its members to: “Keep your recovery first, in order to make it last!
”Users can opt to maintain their home group as a safe space by not dating people in that group.
Sober Singles Date supports recovery by allowing users to find a meeting before they travel, reinforcing the camaraderie of 12-step programs.
These programs often recommend that people set up their meetings before they travel, and users can do this by connecting with members who live in the destination they’re traveling to.
Membership upgrades are kept very low, due to the nature of the site.
The website has features that other sober dating sites do not, including video chat, live chat and instant messaging.
In addition, they incorporate full psychiatric assessment and treatment of medical conditions related to substance use.
I’ve been in and out of 12-step recovery programs (like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) for almost 20 years.
Sober Singles is just one of De Luca’s websites dedicated to finding love in recovery.